8.25.2008

Rant ~ Enough is Enough

Okay...I am sorry... NO...I am not sorry!!....just angry! But this just truly blew my mind. I got this advertisement in the mail the other day and I just went whoaaaa! This was for a well known popular store that caters to young teenagers. What kind of message is this sending? Am I an old fogey or just don'tget it? I don't think so!! I have a little grand-daughter that I would like to instill values in her that girls are smart, funny, brilliant and have class!! Am I wrong??? I am not a confrontational person but I did write the company and tell them how I felt about this. Okay....rant over!! ***** In answer to some emails........ this is a popular clothing store.

56 comments :

M.Kate said...

Hi Lynn, you wont find such ad over here for sure...we are quite prudish ahahaaa..if I go to a certain state, the dress code is stated out clearly, cover up and show the hands and face only..preferably. Now, I wont have my 2 daughters dressed like this for sure..hopefully (fingers, toes and rabbits ears crossed). I guess advertisements are getting bolder by the day or year...

Cherry's Jubilee said...

Hi Lynn! You are right on...I noticed that out school clothes shopping w/ my 10 yr. old son. Abercrmbie and fitch and Hollisters to name a few are really bad... they are not selling well made clothing but S-E-x. I for one am sick of it. cherry

Louise said...

When my daughters are older and start getting mail like this, they will never see it. Call ME an old fogey, too, but this is not appropriate teenage material. AT ALL. And if they move out and decide that is who they are, I'll still love them, but they will know that just because they choose to do it doesn't mean I have shifted my values for their sakes.

To me, the only place type of attire would be appropriate is in my bedroom with my husband. And even then, it's definitely not what I would choose. (Probably not even it I looked like that.)

Jan and Tom's Place said...

I'm with you on this...AWFUL!!

What a terrible message this sends to the YOUTH of today!!

Rant away....

Kathleen Grace said...

I am a mother of two daughters. I think the thing that bothers me the most about this sort of thing is the message it sends to our girls. You are worthy only as a sex object. I am amazed that after the womens movement this is the prevailing message in not just advertising, but also t.v. shows and so many other areas of culture. Girls are somewhat encouraged by being told that they "can be anything they want to be" but apparently they have to be wearing a push up bra (or no bra!), thong panties and low cut jeans while they make the attempt. Enough! Why can't our girls be valued for more than their bodies!?

Screaming Meme said...

You are right...It is sad and that is why we have so many std's floatinf around...I was at the mall with my 13 yr old and This teenager abot 15 opened his wallet and a bunch of condoms fell out...I was so mad... I wanted to let you know I posted another class...If you could spread the word I'd appreciate! Thanks! meme

KarenHarveyCox said...

You're not an old foggy, because I so agree with you. I have two teenage daughters, and thankfully they are not a size 0, so these kinds of clothes are not in their closet. We are from the generation that fought so hard to have women liberated from just being sex objects. This new generation seems to be disrespecting women in the clothing and in the music. One day I went to Manhattan recently and years ago this dress was reserved for the ladies of the night. Now it's hard to tell the difference. So sad. Karen

Kim's Treasures said...

I agree with you 100%! Good for you sending a letter!

Sandi McBride said...

Lynn, what company is this? I'd like to send them a piece of my mind...I think I still have some to spare!
HUGS
Sandi

Penny @ Lavender Hill Studio said...

That is just plain crazy! I hate the message that this ad is putting out there...
Penny

Connie said...

You are RIGHT!!!!!!! Ya pushed one of my buttons now, sweet Lynn! Yes, it's getting ridiculous and embarrassing. A woman in our church wrote to the head of Macy's and told them how they are catering to "nakedness" and revealing clothing and she'd never shop there again. There is modest clothing out there and until we stop buying that for our daughters and put OUR FOOT DOWN on what they wear it will not get any better. I'm a product of the 50s and 60s era of growing up and I KNOW what I'm saying. Did you know that some colleges - Univ. of Calif. Berkeley (my granddaughter's alma mater, yuck!) - allow students to come to class naked? Yesssssss, how would you like to be the next student sitting in that guy's chair?!?! Hmmmmmm??? Well, put your foot down, chicks, write these stores and refuse to do business with them. (I once wrote to Dr Laura about her language and she's cleaned it up too.) This does and can make a difference. We need to protect our youth. They are a great generation!

Smoochies,
Connie

Sophee-a Laroo Bijoux and Sheri too said...

Let me add my 2 cents...I am pretty liberal on some things but you are right about sending the wrong message. Music,television and other media are greatly responsible on how we see ourselves.
That is why there are so many eating disorders out there, poor body image etc....as adults we sort it out but as young children and teens we by into whatever is put in front of us.
If you felt strongly about it.. a letter is great!
I at times even find myself not quite measuring up.....then I remember. Most of it is fake,airbrushing and whatever else.
In our day and age..sex is what they market...they say sex sells. I say try a new approach and put real woman and better role models out there for our girls and boys too.

Lisa said...

Right there with you. My teenage daughter gets sucked in by this advertising mess, and worse yet the schools routinely allow clothing or lack there of despite policies against it. My pessimist head thinks it just speaks of the general state of affairs of our world these days. Very sad message indeed.

Rue said...

Hi Lynn :)

Oh my! How did you find that picture of me? ;) You KNOW, I'm kidding, but I wish I wasn't, about the body anyway LOL

I understand what you're saying. I think it makes young girls feel badly about their own self image. Heck, it makes me feel bad about MY self image and I'm a grown woman that knows better! I understand the need to sell clothes, but they aren't selling the clothes, they are selling an image. An image that I don't want for my daughter.

rue

Donna said...

Whoa! I totally agree with you, Lynnn. I'm glad to hear you wrote to them.

Donna

Shabbyfufu said...

I agree completely Lynn, in fact my pair of twenty something daughters would certainly agree as well. Good for you writing in! ~Janet~

Linda said...

I'm with you Lynne....this is awful. Linda

Judy said...

I also think the pictures they put in magazines and catalogs show way to much body. Just look at the movies out....what happened to using your imagine? Seeing nudity and hearing cuss words 10 times in one sentence does not turn me on. TV is following too.

Margie said...

Good for you for sending that letter! I totally agree with you, and I don't care who may call me a prude or an old fogey. I am so sick of seeing this kind of thing, in catalogs, out in the malls, on billboards, everywhere you look. And tv is downright disgusting for the most part. It makes you wonder how can it possibly get any worse than what it already is?

Michelle said...

I agree! Cover it up and I am thankful that the young girls in my family don't feel the need to show it off!

Michelle

tales from an O.C. cottage said...

You're awesome!

M ^..^

countrygirl3031 said...

I totally agree with everyone...my daughter, who's 19 now, got all these ideas from ads and flyers we got in the mail when she just started high school. Ummm....noooooo, you're not dressing like a slut (sorry, but that's what they look like). Put some clothes on...lol!

Hugz,
Michele

Brenda said...

OMG this is nuts. What are they selling? Looks like teen sex to me. So glad you stood up. As Christians we all need to do this more. I would help you if I knew the company.

Mary said...

Right on, sistah! As the mother of a teenage girl, these ads drive me nuts! Thankfully, my daughter is more interested in shin guards than belly shirts...
Good on you for writing, Lynn!
xoxo,
Mary

Nola @ AlamoNorth said...

You should share the NAME of the establishment with everyone.
I am pretty liberal, but this is just exploitation. I'm glad you took a stand; so many mom's (that usually have good sense) will make concessions, and allow their daughters dress slutty, because they don't want them being unpopular. It's a sad statement on our values as a nation, and it's only getting worse. I am sick of seeing butt cracks, tattoos, and underwear in places on young people that should be covered up in the first place! (ooooh, I sound like a real fuddy duddy! the purple hair, piercings everywhere, and 13 year olds dressed like hookers is DISGUSTING!

Broken China Treasures said...

You go, girl!!! I'm not sure what good it will do, but thank you for taking a stand.

Diana Lyn said...

Good grief! I agree with you! makes me ill! Just shows you how desperate they are to sell clothes! Diana l.

Handmade Holiday said...

I'm with you on this one! I'm apalled at the Abercrombie store windows (not that I've been to the mall recently). Good for you standing up for good morals! Blessings... Polly

Cottage Flair said...

You are so right. That is a terrible message to be sending to young girls. Good for you for writing them. The clothes these days are way too old for our children. Even the boys. My blond haired, blue eyed 7th grader looks like a wanna be rapper with his clothes this year!!!
Also, I enjoyed your workspace photos. A great place to create.
Jennifer

DebraK from ~the Bunnies Bungalow~ said...

I'm with you on this. Current ads go just too far. Calv*n Kl**n ads are too suggestive. No wonder kids get so confused & into so many things. It's always right in front of their noses.
The way teenager dress today really makes me wonder & worry.
Hugs, DebraK

sita said...

I feel your pain! I don't know why we can't return to simplier, girlier clothes! I am not a prude but this is just too much especially for back to school shopping! I dread when my daughter gets old enough for school, who knows what they will wear then!

Linda's Blue Gate said...

My daughter went to "that store " to but her niece a gift card and the gift card had half nude boys on them.... outrageous.....
Linda

Counting Your Blessings said...

LOL! Yes, that was me. Sorry about that. I can't tell you how many times a day I have to sign-out of google... and sign back in with another user name. SOMEbody should've thought of that before starting a blogger's flea market - =) ---Polly

Brenda said...

did you use tomato juice when the dog got in the skunk?If you didn't that will help alot. or you can call me an I will smell him lol.

Lallee said...

I'm on your bandwagon, Lynn. Good for you for writing them. We need to do that more often.

Calamity Jane's Cottage, Bonnie said...

Hi Lynn, I'm all for it, if you got it, show it...
JUST KIDDING. I thought I would write something different just to get your attention. I am with you all the way on this one. I have two grand babies, both girls and I wonder what it will be like when they get in high school.
This is very bad taste that this Company is sending the young. Our younger generation doesn't think we know anything anyway, so this type of ad just puts more thoughts into their minds that shouldn't be there. Why don't you make a copy of all these complaints and email it to them. I back you 100%.
Hugs,
Bonnie

mrsjones6 said...

Whoa is right! I don't understand why everything has to be so "sexed" up. It breaks my heart for our children to say the least. Fortunately, I have girls who are concerned with modesty over style (at least for now) which makes shopping much more enjoyable!

Have a great weekend,
Jen

onlymehere said...

You're not an old fogey by any means.....this is horrible. I don't even want to see an ad like this that caters to older women. It's pure and simply inappropriate and I'm glad you told them what you thought! Cindy

CatHerder said...

i agree with you wholeheartedly...and yet another reason im glad i had boys not girls....i cringe, however, everytime my sons girlfriend comes over (he is 17 she is almost 19)....i would never let my daughter out of the house dressed like half the kids out there..it really upsets me when you see a 10 year old dressed like that!

Bebe said...

Hi Lynn!
You are so right to be upset about this advertisement ~ it is totally unappropriate for a young teen girl. I would have been just as shocked as you were when I opened that up and saw it. I am always amazed when I'm out shopping and see some young teens in the clothing styles they have today. Shirts cut way too low and way too tight, skintight jeans, and guys having their underware sticking out...the dress code has gotten out of hand and the youth of today are without a classy fashion role model. They see it on print ads like this and on t.v. and think that's what they have to do to be cool. I applaud you for taking the time to write the company and stress your disapproval. If more of us demanded a change, there would be a change. (Okay, stepping down off the fuddy soapbox now.... :) Hope you have a nice holiday weekend!!

Lots of hugs, Bebe :)

Tricia said...

Way to go Lynn, I think that cover is terrible. Who would want their child to wear such as that anywhere? I am glad you sounded off on them. You Go Girl!

Adeline's Shabby Cottage said...

Girl, I couldn't agree more!! I have 2 daughters and am faced w/attempting to find things that are appropriate for their age every year when school clothes shopping. Especially the 12 yr old, but even the 8 yr old for crying out loud! Why can't kids just be kids like they used to? Kids now don't even know the meaning of class. I refuse to allow my children to dress provocatively, no matter the styles. You can look good without looking like a cheap tramp!! Good for you sounding off to the company. I bet I can guess who that is an advertisement for. I've been boycotting a certain "IN" store for a little over a year!! Looks like one of their ads. Arrrgghh!!
:)Brittany

What a rant! And to think, all I wanted to do was catch up w/you and invite you to sign up for a little give away I'm doing:)

Pat @ Back Porch Musings said...

I absolutely agree with you, Lynn. Thank you for posting this!

Tamara Jansen said...

Wow! This one hit a raw nerve, didn't it? But if we all dislike it so much.....why do they keep using it?

Brenda Kula said...

Well, then I'm an old fogey too. I will be so glad when they make women's/girl's jeans that come up higher than your hip bone. So sick of seeing those, and they make a person look sooo unattractive! Sick of seeing all the fads that my being-born-in-December granddaughter will want to emulate.From the look of this long list of comments, there's lots of agreement!
Brenda

Tamara Jansen said...

Glad you liked today's post :) I would love it if added me to your list! I haven't figured out how that all works yet so I don't have a list going yet.....gotta talk to my sister about how to get that going.

Nancy at ManicForMosaics said...

Lynn - I TOTALLY agree with you! What message is this sending to young girls? This is SHAMEFUL and DISGUSTING! In no way would anyone call me a prude but I think the problem with the picture in this ad is TWO FOLD:

First, it says to girls it's okay to let your "Girlie Bits" hang out for the world to see. There is no modesty!

Secondly, it makes young girls feel that they should have a body that's perfect when MOST REAL PEOPLE do not look like that! Heck, that MODEL probably doesn't even look like that. Most of these photos are doctored to make them look that good.

Isn't it important for our girls to be valued for their INTELLIGENCE and not their BODIES? When my daughter was young and someone would tell her that she was pretty, I taught her to reply, "Thank you and I'm SMART too!" I've taught all the girls in my neighborhood to say it too!

bj said...

Thanks for posting this, Lynn...
I have 7 little granddaughters and the pressure on them is already too much. Then, when something like this comes along, it just adds to those pressures. It all just makes me want to cry.
What store sent an ad out like this? I would like to send them a blistering email.
love, bj

Debbie @ ribbonwoodcottage.blogspot.com said...

WOWEE KAZOWEE! Where did you get those pictures? Wow, I am shocked. I agree with you wholeheartedly!
Debbie

Amber said...

Let me guess...Abercrombie & Fitch? I've boycotted their stores for about 10 years. I'm no prude, but I draw the line at teen porn. :-(

marmee said...

what store is this?
a bunch of years ago right when i had lots of kids shopping we got an advertisement in the mail, a catalog of sorts, for ab & fitch, the kids in it were all half naked and laying all in and around each other(can you say orgie). that was it ---- we have been boycotting them since. i thought we would never find any great, cool clothes but not true. buckle is one of my teens favourite stores and they are always helpful.
I SAY STOP SHOPPING WHERE THEY HAVE THIS MESSAGE!

KARIN said...

I have a six-year-old who is a first grader. We were buying school supplies and I had to explain to her why we would not be purchasing any of the Hannah Montana folders, which depicted a young girl wearing 6 inch platform stilleto heels. We bought the Disney Princess. I guess the battle is on :(

maryanne420 said...

hi! i'm new to your blog. i have to say that i totally agree with you. i can't stand those ads. where i live, los angeles, there are billboards for strip clubs all over the place, BILLBOARDS of women posing seductively. i literally have to pray when i'm driving. i used to be against having a dvd player in our car but not anymore. i'd rather have my son's attention focused on veggie tales than some seductively posed women on a giant billboard. thank you for writing that letter. if you share it here, the name of the store, i would love to give them a piece of my mind as well.

Lu Lu's Fluffy Ruffles said...

I agree with you 100 precent!
have you seen music videos?
many are nothing short of pron movies and this is what our underage children are watching and thinking they should be acting and looking like.
good for you for writing.
oh by the way I just sold my shop in July I only have the website for now. but If you come up I would still like to meet you maybe for some antiquing.
smiles,
sandy

Tia said...

Funny that I came across your blog today. I want to jump on your rantwagon. I'm sitting alone frustrated and offended by what my 15 year old stepson did today as a joke. I can't even bring myself to tell you what he did, but let's just say that it was a gesture that depicted what I feel is an inappropriate act. I was terribly offended that he did it, more so that he did it in front of a local business (I am a business owner in our small town) and even more so that he bragged about it. I became extremely disappointed when my husband and 24 year old son thought I was "freaking out" over nothing regarding the situation and basically joined in the fun (a male thing?). Is nothing sacred? I feel that many, many kids today have no respect for other people's feelings and females pay the price for it down the road. Brittany Spears is a good example. It appears that she may be finally turning in the right direction and Lord knows that she certainly was in the WRONG direction before. The way they dance (beyond dirty dancing) the way they dress (as noted in above comments and worse) and they way they talk with such blatant lack of respect, to name a few things. Maybe I'm just getting old...or maybe they are just pushing the envelope...but they aren't doing it on their own, they are being helped by media, celebrities and lack of boundries and consequences. How far is it going to go? Will fashion soon become no clothes? When will sex soon become "OK" in public? It saddens me that I don't know that we can shelter children like my 3 year old niece and God-daughter, who will soon begin to notice the craziness of our society and what TV, magazines and celebreties promote as being "OK." Such disregard is selfish. I have two boys and often, I feel lucky I had boys, but for those of you who have girls, stick to your guns! Hopefully you can steer your girls to grow up against the "trashy and tacky times" and into the more "self-respectful and classy times." Good luck ladies!!

Susie Q said...

Oh yes! I recieved the same ad and caught Grace looking through it before I had the chance to toss it. Thankfully she has no desire to dress this way but I worry...
Our lids are subjected to such things at such a fast rate these days. You should see some of the outfits the 5th grade girls wear today! My BF has had to send 4 girls home already!

I loved your rant and applaud you for it!

Love,
Sue

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